That very first meeting. Priceless.
How are you preparing your older children for the impending birth of a new brother or sister?
Here are just a few ideas to share:
1) Allow your child to express his or her feelings throughout your pregnancy. When they ask questions, answer them (based accordingly to their age).
2) Get any changes out of the way BEFORE the baby arrives. If you are going to be moving your child(ren) to another room, do so so they have time to adjust. Work on toilet training and weaning if you feel they are ready.
3) Sibling birth classes are often offered. If you think your children are having a hard time adjusting to the idea of a new family member, consider a class to help them transition.
Ah, the fighting. When you have a brother or a sister, the ability to disagree with one another is bred into each one’s DNA it seems.
This can be as a child or even as an adult. We don’t always see eye to eye.
I have three children. Boys. Who like to wrestle, argue and fight over some of the most ridiculous things. As a parent, I continually teach them the need for respect and kind words. Most times the disagreement is quick and easily solved. At other times, it takes parent involvement to solve it for them.
One thing I’ve learned is to let your kids try and figure out the disagreement on their own. Allow them the chance to suppress the instability by themselves at first. Use it as a teaching tool. I’ve found this to be incredibly useful as my children grow.
How do you help your kids solve a disagreement?
~ Valerie King
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Meeting for the very first time. What a photograph….