Monday Moments ~ Preparing Siblings For A New Baby

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How are you preparing your older children for the impending birth of a new brother or sister?

Here are just a few ideas to share:

1) Allow your child to express his or her feelings throughout your pregnancy. When they ask questions, answer them (based accordingly to their age).

2) Get any changes out of the way BEFORE the baby arrives. If you are going to be moving your child(ren) to another room, do so so they have time to adjust. Work on toilet training and weaning if you feel they are ready.

3) Sibling birth classes are often offered. If you think your children are having a hard time adjusting to the idea of a new family member, consider a class to help them transition.

Monday Myth ~ The Perfect Mom

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We all know this image, right? June Cleaver from “Leave It To Beaver”. She always wore her Sunday best (even to mop the floor), wore her pearls daily, cooked dinner in heels and showcased a spotless house always. So, we should do the same, right? Being the perfect mom is expected….or is it?

There’s no virtue  in pretending you can do it all — or breaking your neck trying to. It isn’t worth it. All that does is heighten your stress levels. In other cultures, women flock around a new mother to help ease the child-care burden. So create your own “village” of friends and relatives, along with your spouse, and take turns supporting each other to get chores done, tend to responsibilities and take a bit of downtime.

You also need to recognize your limitations and be willing to make some compromises. The laundry may sit unfolded an extra day or two. The kitchen counters may have to display yesterday mornings crumbs just a bit longer. You may not be able to do everything on your list, and that’s the trade-off in order to squeeze in some relaxation. You HAVE to take time for yourself. Walk the dog, curl up in your favorite chair and grab a book, watch your favorite sitcom or chat on the phone with a friend. It may not seem like a lot, but when you have your hands full juggling the demands of life and motherhood, those 20 minutes will feel like a godsend. Trust me!