Top Ten Tuesday – 10 Reasons Babies Cry

1) They Are Hungry
Babies tend to cry mainly because they are hungry majority of the time. The younger your baby is the more it will cry because it need more food.

2) They Are Uncomfortable
Make sure they your child is in comfortable fitted clothes. Check to see that the clothes are too light or too loose on them as well. Also check to see if the child has a soiled diaper on. If so, give them a quick change.

3) They Are Too Cold or Too Hot
Make sure that your child is warm and cozy. Do not over layer your child with clothes where they are too hot. A reasonable amount of clothing should be one more layer then you. Children’s skin is sensitive and needs to be treated with care.

4) They Want To Be Held
When babies are young they need to be held by their parents for the feeling of love and reassurance that they are there. Babies want physical contact with their parents; want to be able to hear their voice so they feel safe.

5) They Need To Drift Off To Sleep
When babies are young they require a lot of sleep. They tend to get quite cranky when they are tired, and tend to fall asleep wherever they are.

6) They Are Sick orIll
It is possible that if your child is crying too much and won’t stop that it may be in pain. Often when children are sick they tend to cry in a high-pitched urgent tone. Try to assist your baby immediately by taking him/her to the doctor to make sure they are not dealing with a virus or infection. Reassurance is always key.

7) They Want Something To Soothe Themselves With
When babies are little they tend to put everything in there mouth. That is why a pacifier or clean fingers can be very satisfying for a baby. Sucking on things can steady a baby’s heart rate, relax her stomach, and help her settle.

8.) Older Babies May Want To Play
Give your child some to play with such as toys. It will keep the their sweet little mind distracted.

9) They Need To Be Entertained
A child is bored very easily. So sit when them and accompany them, which will make them comfortable with your presence and give your some bonding time. Little ones crave attention.

10)  Irritated By Noises
A child’s ears are quite sensitive and they can get scared of the littlest noises. Keep loud noises to a minimum around baby, such as vacuuming or running the hair dryer.

TOP TEN TUESDAY ~ Top 10 Ways To Get Breastfeeding Off To A Good Start

  1. Attend a La Leche League meeting during pregnancy – Going to a meeting can be a great way to meet other breastfeeding moms who live near you. 
  2. Buy a good breastfeeding book – Two great books are Dr. Sears’The Baby Book or LLL’s Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. 
  3. Have minimal medical interventions during labor and delivery if possible – Interventions such as c-sections, forceps or vacuum delivery, episiotimies, epidurals and IV lines can all lead to a more difficult recovery during the postpartum period for a mom. In addition, a natural birth reduces the likelihood that the baby will have to be separated from the mom after birth. This is very important, as immediate skin to skin contact for an hour after birth has been shown to increase the likelihood of successful breastfeeding.
  4. Hire a birth and/or postpartum doula – Having a doula at birth can enhance bonding between a mother and her baby. This can lead to more positive interactions between mom and baby and can assist in establishing a strong milk supply. 
  5. Know where to go for help – After birth, have contacts handy who can help you with any breastfeeding problems that might arise. This can be a friend, a lactation consultant or physician.
  6. Keep your baby skin to skin for the first hour and delay the newborn exam– Babies are quietly alert during the first hour after birth. Babies who are kept skin to skin for the first hour are likely to latch on well. They also are more likely to have stable and normal heart rates, blood pressure and temperatures.
  7. Keep visitors to a minimum during the first few weeks – Everyone wants to see a newborn, especially well-meaning family members. However, moms need their rest so that they can recover from birth and meet the demands of a new baby. It’s best to keep visitors to a minimum so mom can focus on two things: getting sleep and feeding the baby.
  8. Keep your baby close during the early weeks and feed often – Feeding your baby on demand is crucial during the first few weeks to establish a strong milk supply. By keeping your baby close at all times, you can respond to early cues of hunger, rather than waiting for full out crying. You can’t feed your baby too often, and the more you breastfeed, the more milk you will make for your baby.
  9. Surround yourself with other moms that breastfeed – It’s great to have friends who are currently breastfeeding their babies, or who have breastfed in the past. They can be a wonderful source of information and encouragement. 
  10. Don’t give up! – The first few months are hard. But, stick with it! You’ll be so glad you did. It’s a wonderful start for your new little love.

MONDAY MYTH ~ Expect Your Firstborn To Arrive Late!

First baby? Have you ever heard….First babies are usually late. 
True to an extent since about 60% arrive after their due date, 5% on their due date and 35% arrive early. The timing is tied closely to length of your menstrual cycle. If it is shorter, you are more likely to deliver early. And if your cycle is longer than your baby will arrive later and if it usually lasts 28 days you will more likely deliver close to your due date. Interesting thought, huh?
All in all, baby will arrive when he or she is ready to meet you. And when they day comes, it will be the most amazing experience ever. Wouldn’t you agree?

Tuesdays Ramblings….Planning Baby’s Nursery

Searching for the perfect decor for baby’s nursery?
Whether it’s your first child or your fifth, there is something very special and sentimental when it comes to picking out decor for your little one’s nursery.
Some choose classic colors and prints, while others of us choose a favorite storybook character.
There is no wrong way or right way to choose what’s best for baby. But, narrowing down your choices may make the decision easier.
1) Budget – What are you willing to spend to decorate this cozy den for your babe? Set a budget and stick to it. Any budget can change a once empty room into a beautiful bedroom no matter the price.
2) Colors – Do you know what baby is going to be? A pink princess or a bouncing baby boy? Knowing the gender does often make decorating the nursery a bit easier. You can choose a floral design for a girl or a sports theme for a boy. But, if you choose to keep baby’s gender a surprise, decorate with neutral colors that are light and airy. Once baby arrives you can add a splash of pink or blue to the room. 
3) Organize – Organize baby’s things with a lovely bookshelf, changing table or armoire. Keep things like diapers and wipes accessible and easy to get to. When late night feedings occur, you will not want to be fishing around in a closet or drawer for a pacifier or tub of wipes.
The most important thing is to have fun decorating and nesting. Having a baby is such a joyous occasion! Make it special.

Guest Blogger Thursday ~ Alexis Kendall from Cosmopolitan Woman

Suffering in Silence
– Alexis Kendall
The story of how I became diagnosed with Postpartum depression and how I recovered. I became a better me.


After I had my son four years ago I found myself living in a new state having been moved from California to Florida with a four month old, only having my in-laws as a support system, and being the only people that I knew besides my husband. It was isolating to say the least. When my son was six months old I started to feel like something was a bit off for me. The first thing I noticed was that I could not lose the baby weight no matter how much I exercised or how clean I ate. Frustrating, but I felt that that was my first clue that something was off. As the months went by I started noticing a difference in my energy level.
As time went on I started noticing the feelings of guilt creep in, however I couldn’t figure out why or what was causing these new feelings. I started to feel guilty that I couldn’t lose the weight even six to eight months later. I started to feel guilty that all I wanted to do was sleep instead of get out of bed, but my body was just so tired. I knew it wasn’t because I was sleep deprived because my son slept twelve hours at night and there was no excuse to be tired. The guilt was brought on by everything that I started realizing I couldn’t do as I had when I first had my son. The guilt was becoming a constant theme throughout my daily routine. I would tell myself that I was being irrational, or unreasonable, but no matter how positive I tried to be, the feelings of despair, guilt, shame and unworthiness to be my son’s mother always came looming back into my mind. I tried getting out more and tried to find more things to do to keep me busy. There would be a few days that would go by and I would think to myself, “Wow, today was a great day! Maybe I was just having a bad few months.” Then slowly as the weeks passed the feelings always came back.
When it really became troublesome was when I started feeling very anxious. The anxiety was like a freight train; once it started there was no stopping it, even after I tried pulling the emergency brake. The train was out of control. The anxiety turned into full blown panic attacks where I felt like I was having a heart attack, but I didn’t know I was having anxiety attacks so it was very scary. The best way to describe an anxiety attack is: extremely overwhelming feelings that not only consume your mind, but also the feelings take over your body. It doesn’t matter how many times you tell yourself to calm down the feelings just rush over you like a tidal wave and you’re left with the aftermath. It was one of the most out of control times of my life.
When I finally decided to go and see a doctor it was on one of my “bad days” as I called it. I had just had an anxiety attack and decided that it was time to find out what was going on with me. I was scared, felt alone, and didn’t know who to tell. The problem that later occurred was that my doctor didn’t know what was wrong with me. He did put me on anti depressants because I asked him if I could be depressed. He thought maybe they would help with my “mood swings” as the doctors referred to them. Not long after I started taking the anti depressants I began to lose my hair and a slew of other problems. The new symptoms became greater and more obvious that something else was going on with my body.
Still depressed, anxiety ridden, and on fifteen different medications for all the “new” symptoms that kept arising, I had never felt worse physically and mentally. I was fifty pounds heavier, balding, and losing my fingernails and toenails. I felt like I was a shell of the person I once was.
 I was trapped inside my own body and could not get out, could not reach out for help, and could not imagine living like this forever.
In the midst of all of this we had a disagreement with my in-laws. I wasn’t prepared for what they had felt. They had felt that there was something wrong with me and going on with me. To them my behavior was concerning, and I can guess that I probably scared them because they didn’t know what was wrong with me either. The disagreement came about because I didn’t feel my problems with depression and anxiety caused me to be a “bad” mother as it was put. I had already had so much guilt that hearing the words “bad mother” and “not fit” was devastating. I knew in my heart that during the darkest part of my depression that protecting my son and making sure he had very stable and loving parents was one of my utmost concerns. I did the best I could with the situation that I was given even under a doctor’s care. I never had feelings of wanting to hurt my son. I always thought of him as a light in my life and he is what gave me the strength to keep pushing forward, even when sometimes deep down I wondered if my husband and son would be better off without me around. I would think about leaving them to keep them from experiencing what I was going through, to protect them from seeing me in the state I was in. It was like I disappeared. I could see them but they couldn’t see me. I was no longer in the physical body that I once was.
What I learned was that the disclosure that my in-laws left me with caused me to feel like everything I was doing was for nothing. All the suffering I had counted for nothing even though I wanted to be a better me. I wanted to be well! I wanted to be healthy! I just didn’t know how to get myself back to that place. I felt that since I couldn’t cope with the harshness of their words and couldn’t forgive myself for being what they said I was, I decided to put myself in therapy.
Over the next year and half in therapy it was then that my therapist diagnosed me with postpartum depression. She realized by hearing me talk about all that I experienced those years that I indeed had suffered with depression brought on by the birth of my son. It spiraled for months going untreated, but my health took a turn for the worst when I was put on anti depressants. For my body, the medications made my illness worse. I had a reaction to the medications and didn’t know it for a year and a half. When my therapist confirmed this to me that day I started to cry, because I knew the whole time that I hadn’t gone crazy, I knew that I wasn’t lazy, I knew that I loved my husband and son, I knew that I was a good mother and a good wife. I knew it all along, but I just suffered in silence for two years. Even though my family knew something was different about me, the matter of contention I had was that instead of putting me down, telling me I was making it up, or accusing me of being an unfit mother, I just needed someone to listen. Instead their words just pushed me further away. How could I ever ask for help from my family when they felt this way and they didn’t even know what was wrong with me? What would they have thought of me if I did tell them what I was really going through?
          What I learned was you have to tell someone that you trust.
Always tell someone you trust and you feel safe with: A doctor, a therapist, a friend, a mother, a sister, or even your husband. Never ever feel like you are alone in this. It may feel that way, but the ones who care for you will always be there and will understand. I chose to tell my doctor first, but unfortunate circumstances forced me into therapy and I am thankful everyday that it turned out like that. I never gave up and I always knew that I was never meant to suffer in silence alone.
-Alexis Kendall
If you have ever experienced postpartum depression and would like to share your stories, please feel free to email me at: alexisdkendall@aol.com Support from anyone you trust is what will get you through this.
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